Isn’t our custom on Chanuka a bit strange? We light a candle… and then we are prohibited from using or enjoying the light! It’s actually kind of ridiculous.
Do we cook food and then say that it is forbidden to eat the food?
Do we sew clothes and then say that it is forbidden to wear the clothes?
But this is precisely what happens on Chanukah. We light candles – and then after the blessings we add: “These candles are holy – kodesh hem – and it is forbidden for us to use their light.”
What’s the point? Why light a candle if we can’t use its light?
Because lighting Chanukah candles is not about the light – it’s about the lighting.
If the candles get blown out – we don’t have to relight them. Our mission has already been accomplished. We can’t control what ultimately will happen to the candle. And our lighting is not supposed to be self-serving. We light the candles, releasing the glow that is within them. The potential for light already existed in the candle. It just needed to be given a spark.
And that is precisely what we need to do for each other. Supply the spark. Not for our own benefit. Not to receive something.
On Chanukah, it’s about the lighting – and not about the benefit or what we may receive from the candle.
The Talmud compares a candle to a person’s soul. We’re not in control of what ultimately happens to another person’s soul.
We’re just here to “light it” and then it becomes holy – kodesh hu.